Q: I am in a LDR and feeling a bit insecure right now. Every time I go to my bf’s page he is tagged in photos with the same girl.I want to say something, but then I don’t know if I should.
A: If you want to know something, the best thing to do is ask. Every relationship requires communication in order to survive. When you are in a long distance one, you really have to take extra care to make sure you are communicating. So ask him who the girl is and be prepared to hear “just a friend”. I haven’t seen the pictures so I don’t know what’s going on, but you do because you have this little power tool called intuition.
Q: My boyfriend changed his Facebook page so now it says single. Should I be upset or is that dumb?
A: I hate facebook as it has proven to be a relationship/job/marriage/privacy killer. That being said, obviously there is a reason that he wants to be seen as single, so you have every right to be upset. But be careful how you express your feelings because he will most likely try to turn it around on you to make it seem like you are overreacting and that “it’s just Facebook”.
If I were you, I’d ask him why did he change it (in a calm voice) and then proceed from there.
Q: We have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years now and I would like to discuss the future about how to end the long distance with my partner.
Somehow due to jobs, kid etc it seams hard finding a solution to the problem. My partner only comes up with dream ideas which are far away from reality and am feeling he is only concerned about his career and doesnt really wanna think about the subject.
He is being very unrealistic and is constantly dreaming up our life in 10 years, but doesnt have any shorter term plans
on how our lifes [sic] could move together. Which in turn makes me wonder if he actually does wanna change anything about it. He is accusing me of argueing [sic] if i wanna talk about it. Also he is saying he thinks its ok how it is
(we are living in different countries!).
Is there any point as i do not wanna have an indefinite long, LDR? Or is he just stringing me along?
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year ( we’ve known eachother for over 20) and he lives 3.5 hours away now. It was all good until the last few months. He goes periods of time without calling or texting, when I am on the road coming to visit him or even before he I leave he calls and tells me not to come. He is completely pushing me away. He has just completed his graduate work and convenietly forgot to tell me about his graduation but I see pictures of it and a party he had on facebook from other mutual friends that were there.
He was in town for one or twice and didn’t even stop by before leaving town. he called to let me know he was there but I never saw him ( his family still lives in the same city as I do). What is going on? When I asked him he says he loves me but does not love the distance. He assures me that nothing is going on he just hates long distance relationships. This is a stark change from us seeing eachother every weekend the first 9 months (both of us driving). What happenend? I feel like this is another one of my train wreck relationships! I am a basket case lately…..I rarely let anyone in, before him it had been 2 years since I had dated (needed to find myself). Now I am confused and hurt and angry. I love him. Have had a crush on him since we were 10 but I feel like if I continue like this I will be hurt again and end up hating him. Help me! What should I do?
If you are wondering how to make a long distance relationship work, this entire blog is dedicated to that. From tips for loneliness, to keeping the lines of communication open, to avoiding the post-visit meltdown, to dealing with unsupportive friends and family; this blog has it all so sit down, grab a cup of coffee and read the archives.
If you have already done that, but you are looking for something new, here’s a little write up on How To Have a Successful Long Distance Relationship.
Follow the steps and you’ll have a pretty good chance of having a long lasting relationship…provided that it was meant to be.
But take heed; skeptics, cheaters, and liars might as well skip over reading it.
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