You have a great site here, Diva

It’s true that many people do not want to work at a relationship, anymore. Several of my friends have found it much easier to give up after the first real argument and go look for someone else. I’ve never been able to do this, though.

Perhaps it’s because of my upbringing (despite my parents divorcing when I was 5), but I believe that a relationship should involve a certain amount of work. How can we truly appreciate our mate if everything is easy? How will we know our partner will be there when the going gets tough?

Much like the wedding vow states, a relationship is supposed to last in sickness and in health, for better or for worse. People who can work through problems together often have a much more fulfilling life.

My grandparents were married 60+ years and, so they’ve told me, used to argue about everything right up until their children moved out. They had grown to know each other’s strengths and weaknesses. They had learned to respect one another’s opinion and find a real compromise (not just a “yes, dear”). And they were in love right up until they passed away.

That’s the kind of relationship I’m looking for in life. I found my perfect wife. We argue. We laugh. We disagree. And most importantly, we respect each other (well … I hope she respects me).

Eventually people will tire of disposable relationships and seek something more, so for anyone that hasn’t yet found Mr or Mrs Right, I’ll wish them the best of luck on their journey

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