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Setting Up The Rules
One of the best things you can do for your LDR is to establish the terms. You can’t be afraid to talk about your expectations nor can you be apprehensive about setting rules. A lot of arguments and hurt feelings will definitely be avoided if you have a plan set in place.
Are you going to be exclusive or see other people?
It often surprises me when women are sitting on message boards wondering if it’s ok to call their S.O. because they haven’t heard from them in a week; but they don’t want to seem too desperate.
Of course you don’t have to have an exact number of times to communicate set in place but it’s nice to have a routine. What worked for me was that we agreed to talk once in the morning before work, and then once again in the evening before bed. If we wanted to make a quick call to each other during the day (or not), that was fine. But our rules said we’d talk at least twice a day.
What things will you absolutely not tolerate?
For me it’s strip clubs, but that was on my list before we were in a LDR.
How often will you see each other? Who is going to pay?
I think it makes it easier when you have some idea of the frequency of visits. That way you have something to countdown and to be excited about.
