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5 Things That Will Kill Your Long Distance Relationship
1. Not making time for the person. This should be a “well duh” type of thing but sometimes people forget that ldr’s can be sensitive objects that require much care. I remember one time I was so excited about seeing my sweetie over the weekend. I had been planning and planning and then he calls me and says he’s not coming because he wants to do something with his friend. I took it as him putting his friend before me. That did not go over too well.
2. Lying. You think when you are far away that it’s easier to lie because you won’t get caught. I beg to differ. Once you lie you have to keep lying to cover up your lies and it’s just not worth it. Don’t insult your significant other by thinking that they won’t remember what you previously told them.
3. Failing to do the extra’s. Long distance relationships require a little more care than your average relationship. You are not there, people get insecure and lonely. Be sensitive to that and remember that a little thoughtfulness goes a long way.
4. Letting everyone else run your relationship. Do you put all your business on Facebook and Myspace? When you have an argument do you automatically update your online status? Do you run to mom every time something goes wrong and expect for her to tell you what to do? Do you surround yourself with people who don’t understand your ldr and who wish you’d just find someone local? Watch out! You could be killing your relationship.
5. Throwing yourself in the lions den. Don’t put yourself in the position of being tempted. It’s as simple as that. Just because your loved one is away it doesn’t make it ok to do things that you wouldn’t dare do if they were there.
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Such good advice. Especially the MySpace, Facebook tip. I don’t necessarily post my business online, but I do think I talk to my friends about my problems too much. I need to learn discretion.