<p>Hello LDD! </p>
<p>I love your website! I am newly in a long distance relationship and it helps immensely. I am 24 years old and my BF is 27 years old.</p>
<p>Me and my boyfriend have only been dating for 6 months. We met while I was working in South Carolina for 2 months but I live in Florida. During my time in SC we met and found that we connected on a level we have each never experienced before and although we hadn’t known each other for a very long time we decided to try to make this work from afar. </p>
<p>In your blog “How did you make your long distance relationship work” you stated:

<blockquote>I can’t imagine being in a long distance relationship without have a general idea about when the long distance part would end. However, I think there’s a great distinction between a long distance relationship and long distance dating.</p&gtI am not a fan of dating in general so I have no idea how to make a distance dating situation endure. In fact, I am not convinced that long distance dating situations are even worth it because dating lacks the commitment factor. And what’s the point of being someone’s mental or verbal jump off when you aren’t sure if they are getting other aspects from someone local?</blockquote>

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<p>I would not consider my boyfriend a “jump off” and he wouldn’t consider me one either but we are in fact Long Distance Dating. It has been the hardest thing to actually accept the fact that neither of us are willing to move RIGHT NOW, of course, we have only know each other 6 months and it would be inconceivable to completely uproot our lives at this moment in time. So we do not have an end point of time for this LD relationship. </p>
<p>Besides the long distance things are wonderful in our relationship. The distance has helped us get to know one another intimately and we connect deeper than any relationship I have been in before. I am completely in love. </p>
<p>What I do worry about is being able to progress. Being so far away from one another we do not have the normal dating process to go with. We cannot just call the other person up and meet at the movies for a date on Friday nights. We cannot meet each others friends and bond with them for extended time periods of time because we are only together for a limited amount of time ourselves. </p>
<p>We have however met each others parents. We have met each others best friends as well. All in all in the duration of our relationship we have spent 2 and 1/2 of the 6 months in the same proximity. The remaining time has been communication through emails, IM, phone, and webcam. It is not always easy. Sometimes I just want to give up and say its too hard, but something keeps me wanting to be with him. </p>
<p>I can see us in the future spending our lives together, it is just I do not want to rush anything. I do not want him or myself to make a rash decision that will inadversely affect our lives in a negative way. </p>
<p>I am going to see him at the end of this month after spending another month and a half away - I miss him like crazy. It is funny because sometimes we are just on cloud nine because we know how much we care for each other and other times we are arguing because we miss each other very much. It is hard sometimes and other times I have to pinch myself because how in the world is this guy willing to be with me even though he has to make so many sacrifices every day. I am a lucky girl and I know it. </p>
<p>Anyhow… that is my story… feel free to interject with your wisdom! :-)</p>

You said: “I would not consider my boyfriend a “jump off”…..”

- There’s nothing wrong with that because at least you have discussed it, and it’s been six months, not six years. If you said the same thing after a few years then
I’d raise my eyebrows. But just continue to keep in mind that eventually you guys will need to make some decisions but for now, just enjoy what you can.

You said:”I can see us in the future spending our lives together, it is just I do not want to rush anything…..”

- You sound like a very smart lady. There is no rush to do anything drastic. Sometimes it gets hard because you just want to be around the person and you mind might tell you to hurry up and do something about it; but you have to reach deep down to the part of your mind that says, “relax and let’s make the best of it as it is”