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Who is Going to Move?
Q: How do you even begin to decide which one of you has to move? How do you know if you can even handle that?
A: The most important thing is to be smart about it. Don’t let your fluttering heart trick you into doing something dumb. What I mean is that if your relationship isn’t something that is going to be long term (i.e. marriage) then what’s the point of going through all that hassle? Making a large sacrifice like that over a fling is just not a good idea. People like to say that long distance relationships don’t work; but most relationships don’t work out in the end so keep that in mind before you pack up and ship out.
Now let’s assume this is a serious relationship, you want to spend your lives together, so how do you decide who moves? It’s really simple- weigh the pros and cons of each person moving. Who would have an easier time moving? Who has been settled in their job? Does either party have children that would be impacted? Who is more willing to move? I was once in a long distance relationship where I was not willing to move at all. I was in college, I wanted to be near my family, and the thought of moving for a relationship was out of the question. He ended up moving. A few years later that relationship ended, and as a result he moved back with his family.
Now, a positive story. I’m married now. When I was dating my husband he moved away for a job. We both agreed that I should be the one to move eventually because we could both start fresh. I agreed because he really wanted this job and I wanted him to be able to live his dreams. Plus I don’t have a job that depends on my location so I didn’t have to worry about that. It was hard to move, it was very difficult packing up and moving away from my family, but I felt it was worth it. I will add that I wouldn’t have moved if marriage wasn’t part of the equation; but that’s just me.
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I am in a long distance relationship. I met my boyfriend online. We live over 900 miles away but this will be our 5th visit since August! So far so good. Just when I was going to give up on love again, I have met someone special!
We are biologically engineered to fall in love and that is the reason why free online dating sites will always flourish provided they maintain quality of service and respect privacy.
The only thing that concerns me is that he lives in Michigan and boy is it cold there!!