Focus on your daughter and not on your crotch!

10 months is not that long to move a child across the country. You are not in love, you are in lust.

I believe she should wait, he should be willing to wait and your daughter should come first.

Ok first of all where did you meet the man? Second of all, yes you need to think about your daughter first. How do you and the child father get along? Im not sayin move if you dont get along, but who is he to tell you , you can’t move? I understand he is the childs father, but he has no right, if it comes down to it, its a judges decision. Also does the man you are in love with have any children? If not why doesn’t he move down there for you? I mean that will show that he really does truly love you, and is willing to sacrifice moving for you. You should not nore should your child be dragged out of your comfort zone, to accomodate a man., especially if you met him online and you haven’t really met as yet. If he is going to brake up with you for that reason, then he was never worth it anyway. If he is a so called MAN he will act like one, and get up and move to you. And for everyone leaving negative comments (A dad, & Carolanne) You have no idea what this lady is thinking with in the first plac….some people do think with their hearts, but of course you being a man, you would automatically think shes thinking with something else. & Carolanne, just because they have been together for only 10 months does not mean they cant be truly in love, some people are different, and it is all about the heart and what it feels, and Im sure she knows the difference between lust and love. You people should not in a way bash this lady for asking for simple advice, put it in nicer terms, because you would not want someone to speak to you or any loved one like that.

Treat other the way you want to be treadted.
God Bless & Good Luck

I agree, 10 months is only a very short amount time. You could simply just be infatuated with this man. Give it at least another year before making any serious plans to move with your daughter. Besides, what kind of job can he possibly do that he cannot move? If he really loves you, he should understand your situation about your daughter and make more efforts to find a job where you are.

In my honest opinion he should be willing to move. If he has no kids and no real commitment to anything where he is living now, he should move. Nobody should stay where they are because of a “job”. Now, if he has a CAREER and has been with the company for sometime then maybe I can understand that, but even still, he should be able to get into his field of work no matter where he is going.

Give it sometime and if you feel it is worth going through with the relationship, then bring it to his attention again and have HIM make the decision to move. If he is not willing to move, then he is clearly not interested in a relationship with you.

yeah, 10 months isn’t very long. plus i wouldn’t want to uproot my daughter for someone if there wasn’t going to be a commitment from my partner (like marriage).

i think i could only understand if he couldn’t move because he owned his own business or something along those lines.

either way, i think you need some time on this to figure out whether this is a relationship both really want.

My main comment is - what’s the rush? I don’t agree with people saying 10 months isn’t long enough to fall in love with someone, I don’t think any of us are in the right position to determine that. But I would say that while everyday is hard to be away from that person, making such a big decision to uproot yourself and your daughter can probably wait longer. 10 months can seem long but I’m sure we can all agree in retrospect how quickly each year goes by. And compared to some people on this blog who have mentioned even 8 years apart, I would say it’s safe to at least wait until the two of feel you are ready to commit to one another for quite some time. Good luck in your decision!

I think you should have a long distance relationship for awhile see what develops. I have had a LDR for almost 4 years it is tough and not easy but you get to know the sig. other very well through communication. Visits are not so tough every couple of weeks…..you learn to cherish all the time you have with them. Maybe you realize that the guy is not worth it……or maybe he moves for you. If it’s true love it will work. Do the right thing for your daughter.

If he loves her, he wouldn’t even CONSIDER asking her to move without her daughter. If she is that special to him, he will switch jobs to move to be with her.