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Long Distance Marriage Isn’t Working
Q: My husband’s brother started a business so my husband moved to help him. I encouraged this and told him if it didn’t work he could come back. It’s been two years since he left and I’m tried of being alone. We’ve only seen each other twice and he wants me to stay here until our daughter gets married. I can’t do this anymore! I’ve become a single parent. He doesn’t understand. Should I give him an ultimatum the next time I see him which will be in February?
A: I’m confused and maybe that’s because I don’t have enough information. How old is your daughter and when is she getting married? If it’s sometime soon then I guess it’s reasonable for you to stay and help out, but if it’s a hypothetical situation then I find that to be absolutely ridiculous.
Here is why a lot of people get in trouble. They don’t plan. What was your plan when he moved? Did you guys discuss what would happen if he moved and it worked out? Or did you just say go, without any thoughts to the future?
The whole situation sounds a little fishy to me but I’ll try to be positive. Talk to him, tell him it’s not working and why. Tell him that you all need a resolution- either he needs to move back, or you need to move there and set a date. If he is really against then I need you to stop and think about why. What kind of husband would choose to be away from his wife and child?
Best of luck
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