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Q: I have been dating this guy for a while now and even though he only lives about 30 min away I still consider myself as being in a long distance relationship. He is a really nice guy but due to our schedules I only get to see him on the weekends. Its getting to the point where I hate Sundays because I know that I have to leave but at the same time I know that I can’t stay. I don’t want to move in with him because I don’t know if this relationship will be long term or not. What are some things that I can do to make things easier on me? Also another issue is that I still live at home with my parents so he doesn’t visit me. Thanks a bunch.
A: Let me start by saying Kudos to you for not moving in with him. Moving in with no talks of marriage can destroy relationships. As to your problem, honestly, my first instinct is to say “girl please!” At least you get to see him weekly. Do you know how many people would kill for that opportunity? I don’t want to be hard on you, but seriously sometimes you have to look at the bright side because it could always be worse. I had to do the same thing. We were 600 miles away from each other but I tried to look at the bright side and say, well, he could be in Iraq right now so I’ll be thankful for that.
So my first piece of advice is to look at the bright side.
The second piece of advice is to read these tips on what to do after you leave your long distance partner.
By the way, why can’t he visit you at your parents house? Do they not approve of him? Do they even know about him? It’s not like you have to sleep together, a day visit wouldn’t hurt anything unless there’s something else going on with that. Both people have to make an effort, it can’t just be one person going back and fourth; that can get annoying after awhile.
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All I have to say is 30 minutes is NOT long distance, by any standard. It takes me 45 minutes just to get home from work. Even if they usually only get to spend time together on the weekends, they at least have the option of getting together before then, or being available in case of an emergency. My boyfriend is 900 miles away, so when he was in a car accident two months ago, I couldn’t do a single thing… I couldn’t jump in a car, the only thing I could do was browse plane tickets to see if I could find something cheap enough and even then the next flight didn’t leave for almost 8 hours. That being the worst case scenario of course, but what about when your birthday or Valentine’s Day falls on a weekday - even if your schedules are tricky you can get to one another and get home easily within a day, you don’t have to devote a whole weekend, or take multiple days off work. Be grateful you DON’T have a real LDR.