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When The Long Distance Relationship Drops the Long Distance Part
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 3 of them have been long distance. We don’t really fight but I wonder if we’d still be together if we weren’t in this long distance situation. But what will happen if we go through all this trouble to be together and then when the long distance part is over, we don’t really like each other? How do I know that all this trouble is worth it?
A: The truth is that you can never predict what is going to happen. The odd thing is that sometimes people think the unpredictably is just a long distance thing, but it’s not. Any relationship comes with the “what if’s”. All relationships are subject to fights, not getting along, not wanting to be around the person, etc. It’s just a risk you have to take unless you want to be paranoid your entire life.
But the key is to figure out how committed you and your partner are. Commitment is the most important aspect because that says, “no matter if I am tired, bored with you, and ready to scream, I’m still going to hang around because you are worth it.” That’s why a lot of relationships end because people don’t have that commitment. They get frustrated, tired of communicating, and label it “irreconcilable differences.”
Only you know if your level of commitment is there.
Best of luck.
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