Comments on: Advice for a First Time Long Distance Relationship http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/ Making it Last From Afar Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:45:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Mirna http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-4093 Mirna Sun, 20 Jul 2008 20:32:55 +0000 http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-4093 "You’ll have people telling you day and night to just find someone local." It's what's happening to me. After my biggest fight in December 2007, I didn't talk much about my bf with my big family. I wanted us to be stronger first then I'll talk to them again. It's cultural thing in Indonesia, especially both of my parents have passed away. While I'm being silence with my LDR, friends and family starts suggesting me to look for a local guy. Hah, it's not about looking for a local, but it's about looking for your soul partner. “You’ll have people telling you day and night to just find someone local.”

It’s what’s happening to me. After my biggest fight in December 2007, I didn’t talk much about my bf with my big family. I wanted us to be stronger first then I’ll talk to them again. It’s cultural thing in Indonesia, especially both of my parents have passed away.

While I’m being silence with my LDR, friends and family starts suggesting me to look for a local guy. Hah, it’s not about looking for a local, but it’s about looking for your soul partner.

]]> By: sarah http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-3065 sarah Mon, 05 May 2008 21:17:45 +0000 http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-3065 what about a year, is that too soon? what about a year, is that too soon?

]]> By: LD Diva http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-2727 LD Diva Thu, 24 Apr 2008 06:39:56 +0000 http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-2727 People have to stop being so afraid to ask important questions. If you want to know when then ask "ok that's great...when?" If you get a vague answer then press on, "are we talking months, years....what's the plan here?" There's a difference between being pushy and just asking for basic information. If you've been dating 2 weeks then you might want to hold off on the questioning. If it's more like 2 years then you are well within your rights to ask. So what are you waiting for? People have to stop being so afraid to ask important questions. If you want to know when then ask “ok that’s great…when?”

If you get a vague answer then press on, “are we talking months, years….what’s the plan here?”

There’s a difference between being pushy and just asking for basic information. If you’ve been dating 2 weeks then you might want to hold off on the questioning. If it’s more like 2 years then you are well within your rights to ask.

So what are you waiting for?

]]> By: sarah http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-2722 sarah Wed, 23 Apr 2008 21:19:04 +0000 http://www.longdistancediva.com/2008/04/01/advice-for-a-first-time-long-distance-relationship/#comment-2722 Having an end point, Grrreeaat idea, BUT how do i get answers to when we are getting married or when we should relocate. I already know that we will eventually. We talk about when we are married or when we have our house or when we have kids. I also know that I will be the one to move to where he is. I just dont know when, I would feel so much better if I did, but at the same time I dont want to be perceived of rushing him. Help Having an end point, Grrreeaat idea, BUT how do i get answers to when we are getting married or when we should relocate. I already know that we will eventually. We talk about when we are married or when we have our house or when we have kids. I also know that I will be the one to move to where he is. I just dont know when, I would feel so much better if I did, but at the same time I dont want to be perceived of rushing him. Help

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