I would like this to be the last New Year I spend alone and without my mate.

This will be the last long distance year of our relationship. My boyfriend proposed to me on Christmas day, and we are now starting the Visa process so that I can move over in the summer after I graduate

I have what most would envy as the perfect long distance relationship. We are in constant contact. We share shows and webpages and all our thoughts. We have been together for 3 years and he is the most caring, eccentric, and intelligent man I have ever met. As cliche as it sounds he can make me smile every time I need it…even when I’m sure that’s an impossible task. If ever I call him crying, I end up laughing and care free at the end of the conversation. We go on vacations at least two times a year and I can be myself around him 100%. He loves me and is supportive in everything that I do. It’s wonderful.

The ONLY problem is the 3 years. (you knew there had to be a problem…lol..I wouldn’t just brag without telling you it’s NOT that great) My parents have recently started expressing that they are worried that my life will pass me by. And I guess I started to think about it too.

We talk about the future and research places to live. We talk about it as a reality as if it will happen with out a doubt. I haven’t met his parents yet tho. I know that they know about me because our parents exchange gifts every time we visit each other and on Christmas. Also there is no set date for him to move. We are waiting until he gets all his bills paid off there…He has said with in the next year but he is very vague on it and always changes the subject.

I just don’t know when it is time to face the reality that maybe I need to consider this could never become a reality. I don’t mean to be negative but I want to have children and a family one day and I would probably wait for him until that wasn’t a possibility. So I know that if I have to make the decision it’s going to have to be just that…a decision. It’s not going to come to me easily like our relationship has been. I’m 26 years old and that has crept up on me. I just love him so much and our relationship has been pure joy. I need an outside expert to give me their opinion.

Type your comment here. Belle…for a second I thought I was reading about my own situation (all the way to the part about him not moving until he pays his bills….please tell me he doesn’t live in Florida?). I am happy to see that I am not the only one but, it makes me wonder….will our men ever make the move?? My friends and family tell me the same thing…”your going to let your life pass you by” or “you will be 60 years old and still be waiting for him to move”. I gave him an ultimatum- move here by this summer or it’s off. I have been with him for 6 years now and I don’t know if I will hold to it. It seems like such a waste to just call it quits but this whole situation is driving me crazy!